I am sure that most have heard the saying, “Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes right to the bone…”
You may laugh, but there is a lot of truth to it.
All of us are aware of the outwardly beautiful individuals that we call, ‘lookers.’ And that, on its own, isn’t necessarily a bad thing because upon checking them out further and getting to know them, they could be as beautiful on the inside as they are in their appearance.
Some just exude natural beauty and attraction and that can work well for them, according to a Business Insider report that says, *“research suggests life works a little better for conventionally attractive people…they get paid more, get considered for more jobs and have stronger social skills than unattractive people, according to science.”
The article goes on to say, “We all suffer from the ‘halo effect’ – without realizing it, we take someone’s appearance to be telling of their overall character.”
Well, with age comes a certain amount of wisdom that allows oneself to delve more into not making immediate judgements by taking things at face value, but rather evaluating more on a further basis. I personally do not choose my ‘peeps,’ the people I hold dear or gravitate toward, because of how they look or dress, how much jingle they have in their pockets or their occupational profession. A little shallow thinking, maybe?
Certain other sayings state, “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder…”
How true that is to those individuals who are attracted beyond what they see and have invested the time to get to know someone better. The true inward beauty far outweighs the initial physical attraction. Some people just get more 'beautiful' as you get to know them. There are a number of people that I know that I have commented, “You are one of the nicest people I know…” and as far as I am concerned, that is much more admirable than having an outward beauty that fades over time. These people have an indelible ‘nice gene’ in their body and always choose to be kind and uplifting other than those that like to beat others down and find fault with.
Those are the individuals that are “ugly to the bone”…the ones who let every foul and mean word come out of their hearts and spew forth their poison to others. As far as I can see, their hearts are evil with intent.
In the human interest magazine, “Life as a Human,” questions were posed: **“What causes a person to be intentionally cruel? Is it carelessness? A genetic predisposition involving a lack of empathy? A lack of proper nurturing? A culturally indoctrinated tendency?” …and further on the author says, “In essence, I think it is very likely that the act of imposing pain on others might be merely symptomatic of overflowing negative emotions.”
The writer comes up with her own philosophy but few conclusive answers. “In life, I have little sympathy for people who choose to hurt others simply because they are in pain,” she says. “But this does not stop me from wanting to understand why people deal with their pain by sloughing it off onto others.”
As for me, I choose to have sympathy for them and hope the best for these individuals. In every life story, “the proof is in the pudding” and because our life stories are still being written, we can all possibly take this adage to heart: “Be patient; God isn’t finished with me yet…”
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